Motivational Visuals Pt. 1

Have you ever been afraid to try something new?  Maybe you’ve wanted to take on a new profession, travel the world, invest, or move to a new state/country. Has the fear of the unknown stopped you from taking that step?  Up until a month ago I would have answered yes to each question.  

Today, I watched three motivational videos that have given me encouragement.  Some people prefer to receive motivation through exercise or listening to music.  I, however, have chosen to watch motivational videos in addition to sharing my story, and reading motivational quotes.

I enjoy spreading motivational inspiration to everyone I encounter. I’m often asked how or why I am so bubbly every day or what motivates me. I’ll share 3 tips that have helped me in the hope they help you too:

  1. Look at each new day as a blessing

  2. Start and finish the day positively

  3. You can’t successfully prosper with a negative state of mind

Additionally, although you’ve watched these motivational videos, that alone will not be enough for your life to instantly improve. Progress comes from taking action. Yes, the video’s will give you inspiration but you have to translate that inspiration into habits and implementation.

Please share your favorite motivational quote or video, in the comments below.


Meet Your OWN Needs

Ladies, when was the last time you did something for yourself?  When was the last time you met your own needs?


Sometime's I find other people trying take up my space, time, energy, and happiness.  Without even realizing it, we will let those individuals do just that.  Ladies, be selfish with your space, time, energy and happiness.  We are in charge of our own well being.  Recently, I found myself at an event and was having a good time until I felt the energy of the place.  Suddenly, I no longer wanted to be there.  The group of people I was with were enjoying themselves and didn't want me to leave, therefore, I stayed.  The atmosphere was good and the event was chill but the vibe, to me, was off.  For that moment I forced myself to conform to what was going on around me.  Won't do that again!I made a vow to myself that I will make it a priority to meet my own needs. 

Just this past week I decided to travel 2 hours away just to visit, Bianca.   That trip was much needed.  Work has been increasingly stressful and I needed to get away.  Every single time Bianca and I get together something always pops off.

For starters, Bianca and I had a terrible dinner experience at Kick Back Jacks on Friday night. Their buffalo sauce tasted like their recipe included garlic and the seasoning on my steak was horrible. To sum it up, the food was terrible.  Fun fact: I LOVE steak, however, I was unable to finish my steak.  The next day, Saturday, we attended a SHAW University and Hampton University HBCU Alumni Tailgate (never made it in to the football game).  I met a young woman who designs and sells merchandise online,  Later that night we attended a kick-back and I got hit on by a guy using nasty pick-up lines.  On Sunday, my body cussed me out for eating that steak and I had to christen Bianca's porcelain throne.  The funny but not funny part was that Bianca had to go to work that morning and left work early because of stomach problems.  

This past weekend was all about meeting my own needs.  I'm learning to be selfish with my time.  Everyone else can wait!

10 Reasons to Say NO and Feel Good About It!

Have you ever felt bad about telling someone no?  Ever felt pressured to say yes to a request because the requester was a close friend or family member? How about feeling guilty because you decided to take personal time for yourself instead of going to an event with a friend?  Have you ever put the need of others before your own? Well enough is enough! Continue reading for my list of reasons why you should say no and feel good about it! They are not in any particular order because you can't place an order on your own happiness. Throughout each day, always find time to do something for yourself.  Keep yourself priority in your life.  

  • No means no

  • How you feel is important

  • You don't owe anyone anything

  • People don't need you, they want you

  • You need to protect your physical and emotional health

  • Self value is important

  • The best balance of any relationship is to give and receive

  • You are not a people-pleaser

  • It's important that you meet your own expectations

  • If the people around you don't like you....oh well

It’s never too late or too early to work towards being the healthiest you
— Anonymous



Say What???

Ever had your girl circle broken?  I have.  It never feels good losing a friend to dumb stuff, especially a good good good girlfriend.  However, just like with most things in life, everything happens for a reason.  Let me share a little story with you all.  

A few years ago, a friend of mine (we'll call her Shelly) told me about a rumor she heard about another friend of mine (we'll call her Naomi).  Shelly and Naomi weren't close but associates through me.  The rumor was basically that my home girl Naomi was in the streets doin her thang (read between the lines). Without disclosing names, I went to (Naomi) and told her to chill out because the streets were talkin.  I hated for a woman's name and character to be dragged through the dirt. I knew what the streets was saying about because Naomi was my girl and we shared a lot of girl talk.  During my convo with Naomi I didn't share my source. That didn't stop Naomi from asking her circle of friends who may have shared her personal business. 


The relationship I had with all with all my girls is that I will always keep it 100 and look out for you no matter what.  Naomi respected that.  Shelly on the other hand thought I betrayed her.  How sway?  I'm not the girl who will continue to gossip and spread rumors and lies.  I will go to the source and get to the bottom of things.  Naomi acknowledged that yea she may need to chill out and respected what I said.  Shelly hated me after that.  Being friends for so long I just knew we would be able to talk it out.  Well....that wasn't the case.  I didn't talk to Shelly for close to 6 or 7 years. Two years ago we finally made a mends.  Shelly felt as though I should have been loyal and not have said anything, which I understood.  We will never be as close as we were. I was happy at the fact that we were eventually able to talk about the situation.    

What is a GC?!


If you do not have a good girl girlfriend...GET YOU ONE!  I have about 4 good girlfriends within my girl circle.  Let me say that again, they are in MY girl circle.  Your girl circle does not have to consist of each friend knowing one another but rather each friend supporting you in a different or identical way.  For me, each one of my good girlfriends joined my girl circle unknowingly at different times in my life.  Whether we realize it or not we all lose friends and gain them throughout matter the hype around 'no new friends'. Yea, thanks Drake!

I don't know about y'all but I need my girl circle.  My girls need to be in place when I need to vent, cry, scream, yell, or just talk.  My friend Bianca for example, I call her when I'm on my way home from work just about every day.  My girls know they can call me anytime! Women need to support one another in all aspects of life because lets be honest, men can't do what we do.  We know what we go through on a day to day basis! Here is a few reasons why you need a girl circle.

Day not going right at work? - Call your good girlfriend that you know if off so you wont slap your colleague and lose your job!

Grocery shopping? - Call your Bianca who will help you figure out if you need to buy that dolce de leche ice cream.  Never mind the hr convo you both just had about not fitting clothes.

Kids driving you insane? - Your good girlfriend who knows all too well, from her own experiences with her children, will understand little Maria having a tantrum and throwing her strawberries on the floor because you have blueberries. 

By the way, I don't have kids s000 i'm guessing this is what kids do. your girls.  We all go through way too much to go at life alone.  As a matter of fact...let me go see what Bianca doin...

Now back to your regularly scheduled program!