Sow Good Seeds

Daily, I try my best to help those around me without expecting anything in return (sowing good seeds).  Sowing good seeds is a great metaphor for everyday life.  As you walk through life your own behavior can influence whether you sow a good seed or a bad one. 

For example, sowing a good seed may involve you noticing a friend is down and having a bad day, so you go out of your way to share a motivational story to help lift their spirits.  Once the story has finished you’ve noticed your friend’s attitude has improved by about 20 percent.  You have in fact sowed a good seed.  Sometimes a person can sow a bad seed without realizing it. 

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An example of this is, you’re in the office one day and Jim, your colleague, comes to you asking if you’ve heard about Maria because earlier that morning Maria totally bombed her presentation. Maria usually boasts her big ideas throughout the office because supervisors tend to use her ideas. Knowing this you’re instantly intrigued and ask Jim to share the story with you.  While in the break room eating your lunch, you see Maria and without hesitation you start talking about her failed presentation.  What you don’t know is, Maria has already had this conversation with 3 other colleagues before you.  In an instant, Maria bursts into tears.  You’ve successfully sowed a bad seed.  Maria’s view of you from now on will be negative.  Almost 80 percent of the time, gossip can be more destructive than good.  Which is why I do my best to stay away from gossip and instead uplift everyone I encounter. 

A few days ago, I received a small blessing from a stranger.  Like most people when you travel out of town by car, you make sure your vehicle in properly serviced.  I decided to get an oil change on my lunch break.  When I asked the mechanic how long it would be until they would get to my car, the mechanic informed it would be sometime this afternoon.  I handed the mechanic my key, sat down in the lobby, and called an Uber.  After I confirmed my uber, I realized I did not stop to get lunch before coming to the shop.  No problem, I told myself, I’ll just have the Uber driver bring me to McDonalds. 

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Sam, the Uber driver, arrives and I immediately tell him to swing me by McDonalds, so I could grab a bite to eat before I head back to the office.  Sam tells me it wouldn’t be a problem to make an extra stop.  Ok, cool.  On the way to McDonalds, Sam tells me damn near his life story.  Basically, he was getting over a heartbreak.  He was married for 19 years and was newly divorced after discovering his wife had been cheating on him.  We arrive to McDonalds; however, the line was extremely long which allowed Sam to get a lot off his chest. Sometimes all people want is a listening ear. I just wanted a burger, so I listened, smiled, and gave minimal conversation in return.  He talked about how he’s trying to move on, what he did in his spare time, his kids, and how he was looking for new “friends” …ok.  Finally, we pull up to the speaker and I order a Big Mac and a Oreo McFlurry.  At the end of my order, Sam adds two McChicken sandwiches.  I tell Sam that I wasn’t paying for his order.  Sam tells m he was paying for lunch.  I asked him if he was sure, and he confirmed he was.  After receiving the food, I tell Sam thank you, then I am dropped off to work.  There was my blessing…free lunch!  You never know when the good seed you have sown will come back to bless you.  Our lives are the result of the type of seeds we plant. 

What types of seeds are you sowing?

Finding Your Voice

Let's talk about the importance of finding your own voice.  First, you have to allow yourself to get out of your comfort zone.  How do you grow if you don't challenge yourself to do something different?

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Most people consistently stick to the same things and run off a routine. This way of thinking will get some people where they need to be, but if you're like me, this doesn't work.  Where's the fun in that? Seriously, living safe will hold you back from most experiences in life.  Think about it, most memories are made from life's random moments.   I finally decided to no longer care what others thought of me or the decision I made. 

The need for family or friends accepting your action changes as you grow older.  For me, it was a matter of making sure with every decision I made was right for me.  The need for understanding who I was and my purpose is more important than justifying my actions to fit some else's opinion.  If I wear this shirt will they like it or if I don't go to the club will they stop hanging out with me?  Again, none of that matters when you start living for yourself.  Once I understood my purpose, I began to break free from everything holding me back.  Naturally, I'm a free spirit so in the same sense I'm daring.  I finally pushed past my fear of doubt, rejection, and most importantly, insecurities.  

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The second step to finding your voice is understanding growth.  As humans it's in our DNA to naturally evolve and change.  No matter how hard we try to stay the same we really do change.  To stay stagnant means you are not evolving.  I don't know about you but I would like to continue to grow and become even greater.  By doing so, you can unknowingly influence others.  Once I made the decision to no longer stand still my voice became stronger.

My third and final step is understanding your voice and making your voice heard.  People don't have to like what you say but they will respect it.  So here we are....Be encouraged to find YOUR voice and inspire others to find theirs. 

Classic Treese - The Bucket (My First Cruise)

In October of last year, I was able to take my first cruise to the Bahamas with a couple of girl friends.  Bianca was there (read the importance of a Girl Circle to learn who Bianca is).  During dinner I had to use the bathroom.  Now, when it is your first cruise you think a friend would accompany you to the bathroom.  Nope, they won't because that was not the case that night.  

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My 'friends' let me go alone and everything went down from there.  I make my way to the bathroom and I open the door to what looks like a closet.  In this 'closet' I see a paper towel dispenser and a bucket, no lie.  Unfortunately I had to go to the bathroom very bad so I did the unthinkable. 

As I fix myself to leave the 'closet' a woman almost walks in on me.  I bet she thought I was dumb as he--.  

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Embarrassed as I was I proceed to go back to the dinner table.  I tell my girls the most dramatic traumatic bathroom story they've ever heard.  These ho--s bust out laughing like I told a Kevin Hart joke.  Yall, my feelings were never hurt so bad.  Biance was the worst out of everyone. I got upset and told all of them to follow me and I would show them better then I could tell them.  We all walk into the 'closet' and I immediately defend my actions.  "I told yall", I yelled. 

I cant remember who discovered the door that lead to the stalls, but yall there were actual stalls.  I was pissed.  I was more embarrassed the second time around.  I had never felt this embarrassed in all my life.  My pride just shot to pieces.  We all walk into the next room, which had about six stalls and four sinks.  Everyone is hackling because it's just soooooo funny.  Talk about making memories to last a lifetime and that was just the first night.  My first cruise experience is definitely one to remember.  To this day my girls ain't sh-- but you gotta love, Classic Treese!